It seems it would be much easier to be the first wife.  You are typically younger, you can set expectations, you don’t have to mother children that are your husbands  (i.ie. avoid the “You are not my mother!”), and you don’t have the image of an earlier wife to get in the way of your relationship.  However, in the past, being in the First Wives’ Club often meant that tragedy would strike.

Members of the Club

This article takes a look at eight of the members of the First Wives’ Club whose marriage ended and whose spouse went on to marry again.

Note: indicates a direct ancestor of myself or my husband.  In some cases, however, if tragedy hadn’t struck the first wife, we would not be here since we descend from a subsequent wife.

Matilda (White) Jury

Married

John Charles Jury Sr.

November 24, 1858

Oxford, Ontario, Canada

Children

Walter Abraham. Wilburt Henry, John Charles Jr., Matilda E.

The Tragedy

Died at age 30, cause unknown.  The children were all under age 10.  The family immigrated to the United States.  It was eight years before  John remarried to Harriett Warner. His mother and sister helped raise his children.  He had 3 more children with his second wife.

Emma (Ackermann) Klinefelter

Married

Judge Sharpless Klinefelter

October 25, 1886

Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania

Children

Blanche Mabel, Daniel✝

The Tragedy

Died at age 25. Emma died in childbirth with her son Daniel.  Daniel also died.  Judge traveled as a part of his work as a builder.  Blanche was raised primarily by his parents.  Eight years later, he married Lois Betha Campbell.  They had two daughters and then divorced.  He married a third time to Martha Edwards.  Judge outlived all of his wives.

Eleanor (East) Storms

Married

Conrad Storms Jr.

March 14, 1814

Garrad County, Kentucky

Children

Lucy Ann, James M., Joseph E., Elizabeth, Martha Ellen

The Tragedy

Died at age 30, Eleanor died of complications of childbirth with Martha.  Martha survived.  It seems likely, however, that she had lost at least one or two children before as there are seven years between the birth of two of her children.

Lulu (Guthrie) Helm

Married

Philip (Jacob) Helm

June 9, 1927

Sidney, Iowa

Children

Edward William, Rosa Maria

The Tragedy

Died at age 26. Lulu died of tuberculosis.  Even before she died, she was away from the family multiple times as she struggled with mental health.  Jake was over 50 when he remarried to Minnie Louisa Carolina Kutzner, who was nearly twenty years his junior.  They had three children. This tragedy allowed for the birth of my mother-in-law with Jake’s second wife.

Sarah Ellen “Sadie Ella” (Ashby) Thomas

Sadie Ella Ashby

Married

James William “Will” Thomas

May 30, 1902

Fort Scott, Kansas

Children

Dessie May, Delbert Roy, Oren Glenn, Leland/Leonard William, Verda Leola, Theo Melvin “Bud”

The Tragedy

Died at age 34, Sadie Ella died from childbirth complicated by hemorrhaging and myocarditis. She lost three children at the time of birth or shortly after, including a son that died two days before she did. Will did not remarry until their children were grown.  He did not have any children with his second wife, Belle (Tremain) Woodard.

Della M. (Conner) Pellett ♥ 

 

Henry & Della (Conner) Pellett

Married

Henry Pellett, Sr.

October 12, 1893

Fort Scott, Kansas

Children

Clifford Claney, Nina May✝, Henry B. Jr., Aseneth “Senith”

The Tragedy

Died at age 33.  Della died after a short-illness.  her sister-in-law (Henry’s broth Seth’s wife Emma [Miller] Pellett) died within hours of Della’s passing. Della had already lost her daughter Nina before her death.  Henry remarried to Elizabeth Maxwell.  They divorced after a very short marriage.  Henry then married Emma Jones.  They had one son.

 Ida Jane (Welch) Van Allen

Married

John (Warren) Van Allen

July 18, 1882

Grant County, Wisconsin

Children

Arthur Wesley, Leon Leslie, John E., Alice, Charles Roe, Kathryn (Carrie), Floyd

The Tragedy

Died at age 37 after an illness of eight months. With his oldest daughter being only ten years old, Grinda Josephine Hanson came to work for Warren caring for his home.  Within a few months, they married despite Grinda being 25 years his junior and younger than his oldest sons.  They had seven children together.

Elizabeth (Edgerton) Peelle

Married

Robert Peelle IV

January 29, 1728

Sidney, Iowa

Children

Robert, Passco, Elizabeth, Mary, Sarah

The Tragedy

Died at age 37.  Robert remarried the following year to Charity Dickenson ♥. This one is complicated as I descend from both of his wives. Elizabeth’s son Passco and Charity’s daughter Judith have descendants that married.  So, it is both a tragedy and a blessing from the perspective of people in my family line.

Ernstine (Stahlhert) Kutzner

Ernstine with her son after she married a second time

Married

Herman Kutzner

July 5, 1877

Children

Wilhelmina “Minnie”, Caroline Mary “Maria”

The Tragedy

Ernstine did not die young.  Instead, Herman and Ernstine divorced sometime between 1880 and 1882.  She remarried in 1883 to August Meyer. They had four children.  Herman remarried in 1885 to Wilhelmina “Minnie” Schmidt .  They had 10 children, but 4 died young. The sad part of this story is that although some of the half-siblings knew each other, the connection seems to have stopped there.  Thus, my mother-in-law did not even know that she had half-aunts or half-cousins.

Sarah C. Dufer

Married

Lemuel Lawrence McCracken

September 23, 1854

Lee County, Iowa

Children

Delormah/Delarma”Del” (Lawrence)

The Tragedy

Sarah, it is assumed, died during or soon after giving birth to their son as Lemuel remarried to Louisiana (Matteer) Badgley a few months after she gave birth.  Sarah would have only been 21 or 22 at the time. Lemuel had six children with Louisiana.  After Louisiana died, he married Melissa (Eveline) (Donley) McKown Rhodes.

 

Sometimes a single event can totally change your life.  Rod’s Uncle Kenny (great-uncle, but referred to as uncle) was only 15 when an event occurred that likely changed the direction of his life.

 

On the Job

Smith Baking Company 2 26th and O Street, Lincoln, Nebraska. Source: Lincoln State Journal March 7, 1926.

When Great-Uncle Kenneth Duane Van Allen (Uncle Kenny) was not quite 16, he got a job working at Smith Baking Company.  The company had been around for some years, having opened November 13, 1913.  However, the new modern facility at 26th and O Street in Lincoln, Nebraska had only opened three years earlier in the spring of 1926.

The new facility could product 15,000 loaves of bread a day.  In addition, the company had added pastries to their offerings.  The mixing and baking process was one of “mechanical accuracy.”  The mixing, dividing dough into loaves, wrapping, and other functions were controlled by electricity.

 

Three-Days In

On June 12, 1929, it was Kenny’s third day and last day on the job.  On that day, his hand got stuck in some dough and was pulled into the dough breaking machine.  It was an electric machine that consisted of rollers that the dough was fed through.  His fingers and palm on his right hand were mangled.  Four days after the incident, the doctor amputated his 3rd and 4th fingers and the worst part of his palm.  The doctor hoped he could save a third finger that was a bit less damaged.  However, it was not to be.  Thus, Kenny was left with a thumb, one finger, and a portion of his palm.

 

The Lawsuit

His father John (Warren) Van Allen had died in a farming accident when Kenny was a baby.  Therefore, it was incumbent upon Kenny’s mother Grinda Josephine (Hanson) Van Allen to sue the Smith Baking Company on his behalf.  She sought $25,000 in damages. 

 

The Plaintiff’s Claims

Doctors supported the extent of Kenny’s injuries and testified that he had lost 80 – 90 percent use of hand. The attorney for the plaintiff claimed that the machine should have had safe guards to prevent such an accident. 

 

The Defense

Meanwhile, the defense brought in a boy/young man from small town some counties away that had received damage to his hand that they felt was similar to Kenneth’s injury.  Injured at age 11, he had gone on to become captain of his basketball team.  They also had him demonstrate writing and other functions.

Additionally, the defense argued that Kenneth had accepted compensation under the employer’s liability act.  Thus, they felt that he was not allowed to request additional compensation.

 

Machine Stoppage

Both sides argued over how quickly the machine could be stopped.  The defense argued that it could quickly be stopped by the operator.  Meanwhile, Kenneth’s attorney argued that it wasn’t as quick and easy as the defense stated.

 

Fight Over His Age

Much of the trial, however, focused on a secondary issue – his age.  Grinda’s attorney claimed the company had hired Kenny knowing that he wasn’t 16, which was the legal age for working in this job.  The defense claimed that he had presented himself as being 16 and that they couldn’t be held accountable for him being illegally hired. 

The defense argued that there were discrepancies in the records over the year and that some records had been doctored.  Not having access to all the records of the trial, it is difficult to comment on what they saw in the records.  However, I suspect that they had assumed that he started school at age 6.  However, he started school before he turned six and he graduated 8th grade at the same time as Donna, his sister who was just over a year older than him.

 

The Verdict Is In

In early November in 1929, the jury awarded Kenneth $10,000 for his injuries.  However, the case didn’t end there.  The defense sought a new trial on the grounds that the jury tried to guess at how much money would need to be paid to the plaintiff’s attorney.  Two jurors claimed that they wanted to give him $5,000, but doubled it to pay for the attorney.  Also, it was claimed that one of the jurors independently investigated the machine and told the other jurors about it.

On January 3, 1930, the judge reduced the judgment to $5,000, overruled a new trial, and got both sides to waive their right to appeal.  After that date, the Smith Baking Company continued to be in litigation over the case.  At this point, they were suing the liability company for $2,995 for refusing to pay the claim.  What is confusing is that they earlier stated that Kenneth had received payment from the liability company.  It is unclear how that was resolved.  In any case, an event that lasted a few seconds wasn’t fully resolved at least until 1931.

After settling the case for $5,000, instead of giving the money to Grinda since Kenny was a minor, a guardian was appointed to accept the money for him.  The Guardian controlled Kenny’s money until November 1934.  Once, Kenny had access to the money, he purchased a Chevy coupe.

 

Farming

In 1935, he purchased a small farm.  The following year Kenny married Adla Mae Slepicka.  However, the year following his marriage, he gave up his farm.  It was during the depression and making a living farming was a challenge.  The following year Kenny was a salesman for the Beatrice Creamery Company.

 

Kenneth Duane Van Allen’s signature in 1940 on his WWII Draft Registration.

Beatrice State Home

New Job

By 1940, Kenny had taken a position as an assistant farmer or assistant to the farm manager at the Beatrice State Home.  He would have overseen some portion of the farm operation. The facility had been around since 1885 and had grown to have 1,570 patients.  The patients were of varying abilities including those needing complete care, those that could be trained to care at least in part for themselves (e.g. dress, toilet), and those that although mentally challenged could be educated.  A portion of the patients worked on the farm in various capacities.

In 1945 Kenny was recognized for the purebred Hampshire hogs that he raised.  It is unclear if they were raised as a part of this operation or if he raised them independently.  However, he is credited for them and the home is not mentioned.  Thus, I assume that he raised them separately from his job at the state home farm.

 

Making It A Career

By 1950, Kenny was the farm manager and his wife was the house mother.  The family had 20 patients living with them and working the facility’s large farm.  What was once a 40 acre property was now nearly 650 acres.  In addition, 500 more acres were leased by the facility.

By 1957, the facility had grown to house 2,184 patients with a large staff of teachers, nurses, farmers, and others.  The home’s slogan was “Learning for Living: Love, care, and training.”

The facility had 23 buildings including a 3-story school, and two hospitals with one dedicated to tuberculosis patients.  It also had gardens, orchards, and farm acreage.  The previous year a dam had been constructed creating a 7-acre pond/lake.  The facility had previously stated that they had 218 head of cattle that produced 400 gallons of milk daily.  In addition, they raised swine and poultry. 

In 1976, Kenny was acknowledged for 35 years of service at the Beatrice State Home.

 

Influence

Kenny’s influence went beyond this specific home.  He spoke about conservation, production, and management of agriculture.  His knowledge was shared with state officials and officials at other similar facilities.

Kenny was also a member of the Elks and the Gage County Saddle Club. 

 

Morale of the story

Kenneth might of lost three fingers, but he didn’t let it hold him down.  He married, raised three children with his wife, and worked in a management position where he appeared to have been recognized as an expert.  Still, we don’t know how that few moments on July 12, 1929 changed Kenny’s life.

 

 

Image of Kenneth Van Allen is from the Beatrice Times, February 2, 1945.

Beards are something that come into style and then go out of style.  Some men can grow them and some can’t. Neither my dad nor any of my uncles had beards.  Of course, some of them may have been influenced by my Grandpa Mc.  He believed that having a beard meant that you were too lazy to shave.  And, lazy wasn’t something that was allowed in his household.

 

Despite his view, his grandfather, had a beard, as did several other ancestors.  Here is a brief look at some ancestors/family members of old and their beards. 

Make sure you scroll to the end to see all the photos.

Neat And Trim

Joseph Gazzan Klinefelter

Joseph Klinefelter was born in 1842.  The first photo is in his Civil War uniform and the latter is near 1900.  He appears to have kept his beard trim both as a soldier and as an older gentleman.

 

Joseph Lewis Ellis

Joseph, shown with his wife Cynthia, appears to have a well groomed beard.  He was born around 1835.  This photo may have been taken in Illinois, a stop on their way from Indiana to Kansas.

 

Michael Ackerman

Micheal’s beard seems somewhat neat and trim.  It is hard to tell 100% given the photograph. He was born in Germany in 1832.

 

 

Wild and Woolley

Lemuel Lawrence McCracken

Lemuel was born in 1831 and this photograph was taken after he married his third wife in 1881.  Based on information about a photographer in his area, I believe it was likely taken in Sedan, KS in the 1890s.  Dad always said that you could tell he had red hair even in a black and white photograph.  However, his beard seems to be mostly absent of color leaning toward gray or white.  Oddly, his hair and mustache have not grayed.

 

Arthur Reid Thomson & John Ronald

Both men have beards and they are lengthy.  However, Arthur Reid Thomson’s white beard takes the cake for the most hair hanging from a face.  It is wild, woolly, and long!

 

 

Hugh Portwood

 

Hugh’s beard was woolly and a bit rough around the edges.  Such was life on the frontier for a man who was born in 1845 and moved to an area of Kansas  where Indian Territory was just a hop, skip, and a jump away.

 

 

Long and Lanky

John Charles Jury

John was born in 1836 in Canada.  According to this photograph, which appears to have been taken sometime after he moved to the United States. John sported a quite lengthy beard.  His height is unknown.  However, he appears to be lanky and his beard matches his body.

 

George Thomas

George was born in 1854 on the Missouri frontier. His beard was also lengthy.  He was thin and tall making a good match for his beard.

 

 

John McGinley Stetler

John’s beard was quite long and shapely.  However, I don’t know anything about his stature.  However, his face is thin and long making it reasonable to assume his beard matched his body.

 

 

And The Crazy Ones!

Henry Thomas

 

The photograph shows Henry and his wife Elizabeth Brown Donaldson.  Henry was born in 1814 and died in 1892.  Based on the type of photo, I would guess that it was taken sometimes in the 1880s.  Henry’s beard is so huge that it seems fake.  It is completely out of place given it is as large as his head.  His head and beard combined form an hour glass shape.  He seems like he is a person who should have shaved or at least shortened his beard to match his facial shape and size.

 

Salathiel Chadwick

Salathiel is shown with his wife Catherine.  He was born in 1806, supposedly in Ohio, which had only become a state three years earlier.  I am not sure if his beard is as wild as his hair, but it definitely was interesting.

 

Lorenzo Dow Pellett

Lorenzo was born in 1818.  He seems to have a combo beard between neat and trim and wild and woolly. It might be the most unique beard of many I have seen.

 

When I go to cemeteries, which I do more than most people, I generally notice two types of graves in particular – the graves of soldiers and single gravestones that are surrounded by seemingly unused plots.  The latter break my heart because I know that in many cases the person died and the family bought plots, but then decided later to move on.  These single graves are particularly heart-wrenching when they are the graves of children.  Sometimes I wonder if descendants of the family know about these people, especially those that died very young.

 

Until recently, I hadn’t thought about single graves of members of my own family.  Most of the cemeteries for my family have at least several members of the family buried in them.  And, in a several cases, many people in the cemetery are related to me.  Yet, there are family members that are the only one of the family to be buried in a cemetery. 

 

Below are the stories of how a few members of my family came to lie alone without other family.

 

Grant Ashby

One of the first people that came to mind when I thought of people that weren’t buried with the rest of the family was my great-great grandfather Grant Ashby.  We spent quite a bit of time one day looking for his grave near Holly, Colorado.   The tiny cemetery was several miles away from town and was completely barren except for a few gravestones.   Not a single tree stood to shade in the small isolated cemetery.

 

Grant had been born in Indiana, married in Iowa, and then settled for a bit in Bourbon County, Kansas.  In 1910, he had sold out and moved to this desolate location. I don’t know why the family left eastern Kansas, where he had grown corn stalks 14 feet tall for this lonesome place. He was able to homestead 1280 acres. However, in order to meet the requirements for homesteading, Grant and his sons had to take long trips to the foot of the Rockies for wood for fence posts.  Additionally, they had to till considerable land for crops.  But, these weren’t the only challenges for the family.  Until they dug a well, they had to haul water 25 miles from Holly.  And, their closest neighbor lived five miles away with the closest doctor residing in Holly. They were pretty much on their own in the middle of nowhere.

 

A mere five years after they arrived in Colorado, Grant died of a stroke.  With difficult living conditions and the family’s main provider gone, it wasn’t long before the family pulled up roots and moved to California. 

Louisiana Mateer Badgley McCracken

Louisiana (my great-great grandmother) was living with Lemuel and their kids in Crawford County, Kansas when she became ill.  The story, according to Dad, is that they were headed to family when she died.  For many years we believed that she was probably buried along a trail somewhere.  Dad thought that he heard they were headed to Peoria, Illinois.  However, no tie to Peoria has been found.  Since Louisiana’s oldest daughter with her first husband James Badgley lived near Quincy, Illinois, it is possible that is where they were headed.

 

In any case, several years ago, I discovered that she was buried at Morris Cemetery in Bates County, Missouri, northeast of where they had lived.  Perhaps they had some family at this place that had helped care for Louisiana or perhaps she died in route to their final destination.  In either case, she ended up being buried in this small, secluded cemetery that sits at the end of a road  across from the only house on the road.  No other family members are known to have been buried there.

 

After Louisiana’s death, Lemuel remained in Bates County.  In 1881, three months shy of two years after Louisiana’s death, Lemuel remarried to Melissa Eviline Donley. Lemuel and Eviline stayed in the area for about ten years before moving to Chautauqua County, Kansas.  

 

Lemuel McCracken

As Lemuel (my great-great grandfather) and this third wife Melissa (Eviline) Donley aged, they eventually moved back to Crawford County, settling with or near Lemuel’s son Andrew.  About a month before Lemuel died, he was sent to the state hospital in Osawatomie, as he had become difficult to handle.  I don’t know exactly what that meant.  It could be that he had dementia, Parkinsons, or a host of other issues.  Unfortunately, the probate court could not find any records associated with his case.

 

When Lemuel died, he was buried at the cemetery at the institution. Not only is he buried without family,  the gravestones in this cemetery  look so mundane.  Just row after row of ugly, plain gravestones.  They don’t even have names on them, only numbers.  So sad. And, it is the eeriest cemetery I have ever encountered.

 

Eviline was buried in Texas near one of her children.

 

John Van Allen

My husband’s great-great grandfather John Van Allen died at Vicksburg while serving in the Civil War.  He was with Company B, Wisconsin 33rd Infantry Regiment when he became ill.  He is buried at Vicksburg National Military Park, hundreds of miles from Wisconsin, where his family lived.

 

Bonus Story:  Arden Johansen

Arden was not related to our families.  He was a friend of my Uncle Dewey.  He died a month before his 16th birthday. After his family left the area, the McCracken family adopted him in a way.  They always make sure he has flowers on his grave when they put flowers on the graves of family members.  This task has passed from Dewey and his wife to Mom and Dad to our generation.